i have to say thank you. thank you to ALL of you who have read the blogs, emailed me, prayed for us and mostly AFFIRMED us in our decision. i've felt very encouraged by so many of our friends and family and I just feel so on the RIGHT track. yeah, it may be a long one but one we finally know we're supposed to be on. And one that has a happy ending.
in the past month since we've made our 'decision' i've been deep in the researching. lots of time spent on the internet looking at statistics, agencies and forums to get a handle on what countries are currently sending out children and what ages are available (on average). i've contacted quite a few of the Canadian agencies and have had great feedback and help.
the best has been hearing the personal stories and journeys of the people I've contacted. Families who have adopted from the Ukraine and Russia. Reading those emails.. seeing the beautiful faces of the children they've adopted has been a mixture of joy, sadness and humbling reality. I absolutely love reading the stories.
yesterday was one especially crazy moment in the midst of my researching craziness. i was reading a blog and decided spur of the moment to contact the writer and ask her more about her agency. i was
pretty excited when i got this response:
Hey,
You wouldn’t believe this…but my prayer today was that God would use me to help someone today in their adoption journey. :)
So, let’s chat! :)
whoa! ok. how cool is that? i couldn't help but take that as a little sign from God that we're on the right track.
as i type this, i am actually awaiting her phone call so we can talk some more about adoption and their experience adopting their sweet little girl.
we still haven't decided on a country and don't feel too pressured to do so yet. we haven't applied for anything yet in saskatchewan, as you must decide on a country first before you can apply.
so if i could ask you all to pray with us as we ponder this decision of 'which country' and jump off this 'faith cliff', so to speak.
Friday, April 27, 2012
Saturday, April 14, 2012
why?
so a few of you might be wondering about this whole ...ball of wax. adopting. how did we get here? what's the current process? what's the next step? i shall try and answer some of your burning questions.
why adoption?
to answer this question i'm just going to back up a bit, in case there are some bloggers out there who don't know us.
i (camille) met andrew ten years ago through a mutual friend. i had a mini crush on him and as time went on, the fire sort of died - as i assumed he was smitten with said mutual friend. about four months after we met, i asked for a ride home with him after we'd all gone out to eat with friends. as we sat outside my apartment we talked for two hours and before i knew it, it was midnight! he called the next day. and the next day. and the rest was history! we 'knew' we'd be together forever after a few weeks. he was 'the one' and i fell head over heels.
a few months later we started a long distance relationship, as he headed off to a different province for a job transfer. it was one of the hardest years of my life but we managed to weather it AND get engaged. our wedding was september 27, 2003. we've been married ever since and it will be 9 (almost always blissful) years of marriage this fall.
since then we've had challenges, highs and lows, and grown a lot in the relationship. about five years ago we decided to start a family. after a year of no success we started testing and ultimately got the verdict of unexplained infertility. it was (and is) frustrating to deal with a diagnosis on something, that could (still) change in an instant.
since then we've tried a few treatments with no success. finally we had to (both) come to a point of grieving a biological child and accepting that for ourselves.
about two years ago, i started to read and research a ton about adoption. i knew that if i couldn't biologically have a baby, i wanted to be a mom anyway i could. i've always had a heart for kids, and if you know me well you'll know i always gravitate towards kids and babies and often prefer their quirky conversations to the stuffy adult topics. :) i've always loved kids, but specifically there's always been a special place in my heart for the neglected children of the world.
james 1:27 has always resonated deeply within me: "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world."
sounds great, right? except andrew wasn't ready to pursue adoption yet.
andrew and i had many conversations about it. we talked with friends who have adopted and they blessed us with their insight and wisdom. but he needed time to process such a huge decision.
quite honestly, we were going to try to 'decide' this summer and figure it out together. but almost a month ago, out of the blue, he shocked me with these words:
"Honey, I'm ready to adopt."
i was thrilled, shocked, happy and totally unprepared!
such a huge blessing to see my husband come to this conclusion and embrace it fully on his own time and terms.
whew....well i guess that only answers ONE question. next blog post coming soon!
why adoption?
to answer this question i'm just going to back up a bit, in case there are some bloggers out there who don't know us.
i (camille) met andrew ten years ago through a mutual friend. i had a mini crush on him and as time went on, the fire sort of died - as i assumed he was smitten with said mutual friend. about four months after we met, i asked for a ride home with him after we'd all gone out to eat with friends. as we sat outside my apartment we talked for two hours and before i knew it, it was midnight! he called the next day. and the next day. and the rest was history! we 'knew' we'd be together forever after a few weeks. he was 'the one' and i fell head over heels.
a few months later we started a long distance relationship, as he headed off to a different province for a job transfer. it was one of the hardest years of my life but we managed to weather it AND get engaged. our wedding was september 27, 2003. we've been married ever since and it will be 9 (almost always blissful) years of marriage this fall.
since then we've had challenges, highs and lows, and grown a lot in the relationship. about five years ago we decided to start a family. after a year of no success we started testing and ultimately got the verdict of unexplained infertility. it was (and is) frustrating to deal with a diagnosis on something, that could (still) change in an instant.
since then we've tried a few treatments with no success. finally we had to (both) come to a point of grieving a biological child and accepting that for ourselves.
about two years ago, i started to read and research a ton about adoption. i knew that if i couldn't biologically have a baby, i wanted to be a mom anyway i could. i've always had a heart for kids, and if you know me well you'll know i always gravitate towards kids and babies and often prefer their quirky conversations to the stuffy adult topics. :) i've always loved kids, but specifically there's always been a special place in my heart for the neglected children of the world.
james 1:27 has always resonated deeply within me: "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world."
sounds great, right? except andrew wasn't ready to pursue adoption yet.
andrew and i had many conversations about it. we talked with friends who have adopted and they blessed us with their insight and wisdom. but he needed time to process such a huge decision.
quite honestly, we were going to try to 'decide' this summer and figure it out together. but almost a month ago, out of the blue, he shocked me with these words:
"Honey, I'm ready to adopt."
i was thrilled, shocked, happy and totally unprepared!
such a huge blessing to see my husband come to this conclusion and embrace it fully on his own time and terms.
whew....well i guess that only answers ONE question. next blog post coming soon!
Monday, April 2, 2012
getting started
andrew and i have always been music fans. we've spent hours listening to music. talking about our favorite bands and guitarists and singers. quizzing each other on the finer points of lyrics, album titles, years of releases and who REALLY sang the first version of "Blinded by the Light."?
so when i was thinking of a blog title for an adoption blog - I couldn't get the idea of integrating lyrics into the blog - out of my head.
the following three songs really convey what i'm trying to get across with the title "i don't you know you yet".
love song for no one - john mayer
- - Searching all my days just to find you/I'm not sure who I'm looking for/I'll know it/When I see you/
to whom it may concern - the civil wars
- - Why are you so far from me?/In my arms is where you ought to be/How long will you make me wait?/I don't know how much more I can take/I missed you/But I haven't met you/Oh but I want to
and lastly....
falling slowly - glen hansard (once)
I don't know you/But I want you
So there you have it. Sometimes music speaks for me when I don't have the words.
so when i was thinking of a blog title for an adoption blog - I couldn't get the idea of integrating lyrics into the blog - out of my head.
the following three songs really convey what i'm trying to get across with the title "i don't you know you yet".
love song for no one - john mayer
- - Searching all my days just to find you/I'm not sure who I'm looking for/I'll know it/When I see you/
to whom it may concern - the civil wars
- - Why are you so far from me?/In my arms is where you ought to be/How long will you make me wait?/I don't know how much more I can take/I missed you/But I haven't met you/Oh but I want to
and lastly....
falling slowly - glen hansard (once)
I don't know you/But I want you
So there you have it. Sometimes music speaks for me when I don't have the words.
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